MORAL SHORT STORY
KNOW BEFORE ANY CORRECTIVE FEEDBACK
“Corrective
feedback should not be given to anyone. The one who asked for it someway
deserves for it otherwise not”.
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Corrective feedback is the suggestion or advice
given to someone to mend his prefixed belief over a situation, work, or
incident. It is given only for helping him out from complications that he might
be encountered in the future.
People usually give it for the betterment of the
receiver but a few people settle their old accounts in vengeance. People are
always good for good people and bad for bad people, where no emotional courage
is needed. It is said that you need to have a strong opponent or criticizer to
strengthen your inner emotional health.
The power of acceptance is needed to deal with a
person of opposite traits. Acceptance does not mean you approve of his thought or
else you will imbibe it; it means you are not hating the person for his
different ideology and accepting him without any mental turbulence. Everyone
is right in his own perspective; you need to put your leg in his shoe to
understand this.
In
another way, corrective feedback means you are mentioning your ideology is
superior and you are thrusting others to accept it. At this juncture, there is
every possibility that you will be leveled as a man of arrogance even by your
close members.
So, Suggestions or advice, or corrective feedback
should be given to those who deserve it. Free advice is as dangerous
as poison. Many times, it acts like a boomerang. A story in this line
is given below.
There were two bosom friends Ram and Hari, studying
in the same class and school. Ram was hardworking and read a lot to score good
marks in the final examination. Unlike Ram, Hari was very casual and joyful. He
does spend time in merrymaking and enjoyment. No doubt, he was brilliant in his studies but lacked hard work and dedication. Ram devoted his time and energy
for preparation and kept everything in a sorted manner starting from the
collection of books to note-making.
The casual attitude of Hari in reading and
preparation compelled Ram to suggest Hari to read. The board examination is in
our head & the syllabus is yet to finish. You need to pay attention in this
regard. At least you have to make note of the entire syllabus. So, preparation
will be easier for you, and you will score good marks in the examination. Hari
could not take this suggestion positively. He thought as Ram has made all the
notes precisely, he is boasting about it. He decided to teach a lesson to Ram
and look for an opportunity to teach a lesson.
The attitude remains the same. Hari did not pay heed to
Ram's saying. Days passed down and one fine day program of the examination got
released. Hari brought Ram's notebook for making a copy of it. Ram handed over
the notebook with a request to back it by tomorrow. He could not return it
showing a petty issue instead he was enjoying entire days with friends. The
next day Ram went to meet Hari for the notebook at that time Hari was playing.
Being a close friend Ram's retort time is short Hari and our examination is
about to happen. You have to use this time in learning to garner good results
and a bright career.
Hari became enraged listening to Ram’s advice and tore the
notebook into pieces. He thought Ram's notebook is the cause of the contentious
relationship between them. Seeing this attitude of Hari, Ram became speechless
and remorseful over his suggestions. He learned Corrective feedback/ suggestion/
advice should not be given until & unless someone asks for it.
Go
through the following points while giving any suggestions: -
- 1. Corrective
feedback should not be given to anyone. The one who asked for it someway
deserves it otherwise not.
- 2. Many times,
when someone takes your suggestion. He must have made his own decision over it.
He asked for your approval in his prefixed decision in the name of the
suggestion. Either way, he might blame you. If you support him and, he fails in the long run you will be blamed. Because you had given consent for his work. If
your suggestion did not match his expectation, you will be Instantly tagged as
a bad wisher. He assumes you are not interested to see his progress. So, either
way, you will be blamed. So, ponder over it while giving any suggestions to
anyone.
- 3. Usually, it
is seen that people give suggestions or corrective feedback to settle their old
accounts. It should not be done. In the name of corrective feedback, don’t
settle your old account.
- 4. Don’t give
suggestions in an open forum. Even if you are right and the receiver is your
blood relation, it will hurt him. There are maximum chances that he will
disobey you. Always go for one-to-one conversation while giving corrective
feedback.
- 5. Repetitive
corrective feedback might rift your relationship, degrade your value. So,
refrain from it.
- 6. When someone
is asking you for a suggestion, do not thrust your ideology on him. It is good
to show him the different choices (Positive & Negative) available for him
and the consequences which will come in its way. Let him make his own decision
as ultimately, he is going to bear the consequences of his action.
- 7. Advice often
does more harm than good. When the receiver does not want your advice, do not
brag before him. First, give him space to express everything that he wants to
vent out as most humans yearn for someone to listen to them. Contemplate it and
go for your actions i.e., suggestion or withdrawal.
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